Following on from the 10 things that you should never say to a girl on the first date, we’ve got to fill the ladies in on protecting themselves as far as possible against rejection. Not only do guys have to watch what they say but girls do too. If a guy feels that he’s being insulted on the first date then he isn’t going to want to see you again.

In some ways, guys are more sensitive than girls. Although girls won’t like a guy that waxes lyrical about his ex or his mum, a guy won’t like any phrases that attack his masculinity or looks. Check out the 10 things not to say to a guy on the first date below:

1. For some reason you’re thinner than I remembered you!
2. I like feminine looking guys
3. You call those muscles?
4. Wow, check him out!
5. My ex says…
6. I want to get married in the next year or so.
7. My ex was a bouncer/security guard/professional wrestler/policeman etc
8. I’m very independent and don’t need looking after by anyone, especially a guy.
9. I don’t do sex, not until after I’m married.
10. I can’t wait to settle down and have lots of kids.

Now if you stay away from those phrases on your first date, or variations of them, then you’ll be absolutely fine!

We have all been there and know how it feels – the butterflies in the stomach, the nervous laugh and the hope that it will lead to something more. If you have yet to guess it, the above refers to the first meeting you have with someone you met via online dating. Online dating is much easier in some ways because you already know a person before you meet face to face. However, that does not stop you being nervous and making the same mistakes as you would if you had met someone in a more traditional manner.

The ten short and sweet tips below for a first meeting after online dating should really help you to enjoy yourself and relax so take a look to maximize your chances of success.

1. Start As You Mean To Go On – Greet your online dating date with a big smile and a few words about how great it is to meet them, a bit like you would an old friend. This will put both of you at your ease a little.
2. Meet During The Day – There are more things to do during the day than at night. You can visit places of historical interest or go for a walk around public gardens. Those types of dates are more interesting and give you more to talk about.
3. Keep Busy – Having a bus date is better than having dinner because there is less of a chance that there will be an awkward silence. Those are always best avoided.
4. Go Over Common Ground – If you have been online dating then the likelihood is that you already know a little about each other. This gives you a chance to talk about subjects you already feel safe with.
5. Do Not Try To Be Funny – Rubbish jokes have no place on a first date so leave them at home. Having a laugh is one thing but stunning your date into silence is another.
6. Avoid Talking Too Much – Just think about it this way. When online dating you take turns to talk via instant messages so do not talk over your date when you finally meet up.
7. Go Alone – Taking a friend is not the best way to get online dating in person off to a good start. Do meet in public and tell people where you are for your own safety but taking someone may upset the other person.
8. Stay Away From Personal Details – Do not talk about your home address, where you work or anything else of that nature. This is to protect your safety via online dating. If you avoid these subject you will relax more because there will be no pressure to disclose information.
9. Avoid Debating – Politics, religion, feminism, ethnic issues and so on should all be off the menu so that neither of you get yourself into an awkward position that you cannot recover from. You do not talk about that on online dating so do not do it on a first date.
10. Be Yourself – The golden rule and it speaks for itself.

Going on a first date can be nerve racking for a guy. After all, it isn’t very good to have a girl go out on a first date with you and then have her reject you. She may not reject you at all but your fear of rejection when combined with the nerves and the excitement of your first date could lead to all sorts of things coming out of your mouth that that you wish you had never said.

First dates can lead to rejection if you offend your date through saying any number of things, but the top 10 things never to say are listed below for ease of reference:

1. You look so much better than you normally do.
2. Do you sleep with someone on the first date?
3. My ex says…
4. You remind me of my mum.
5. I would ask you back to mine but my parents will be in bed.
6. But you’re a girl!
7. I’m a nice guy, honest.
8. My therapist says…
9. I usually go for pretty girls but I really like you.
10. Wow, look at the tits on her!

Any variation of the above is a massive no-no. If you steer clear of these then you’ll be fine!

For the 10 thinks you should never say to a guy, check in later this week!